Seeking to find a domient woman into bdsm - Durham

Hi I'm vamp seeking a women I can get to know who is dominent to build a relationship I'm in a open relationship so someone who dose not mind that is a must So my fetish is risk play fetish that can include knives lighters flammable liquids wanna know more about that just ask I'm married and am looking a poly partner as my wife and I are poly and I would be a submissive but in the bedroom only I like to be controlled there outside of there I'm pretty normal I'm a very loving male born male showing non binary with lots of love to give, I'm into a type of roleplay with risk and fear I like to be tied up doused in something flammable or parts of my body ie penis or something flammable Tyed or a firework or something or a fire build on me or around me and my mistress with a lighter the means that if she wanted could set me alight it's a mind fuck and not being able to move and not totally knowing what's coming is my kink watching it play out is my kink could you get into this seeking someone that likes to control my mind it's the fear that turns me on I am aslso disabled I use a wheelchair alot of the time someone that didn't mind that would be a must I hopefully look forward to hear back from you

Looking for someone that can tie someone up ie me douse them in something flammable and threaten them you will set them alight having a lighter in your hand
It's the fear that gets me off

What I would like done during a session teassed and edged and threatend if I came I would be set on fire

Also you chooses the flammable liquid item firework whatever I dont wanna see whats coming till I'm tied and with receipts I will reanburse you for it and if its regular I would something differnt all the time

Other than that I'd like to build a relationship ie open or d/s